From vague intention to a real invitation
Discover activities, combine options and turn ‘we should do something sometime’ into something another person can actually respond to.
About the project
An invitationmaker, activity tool and conversationstarter, built by neurodivergent people.
Make Friends & Fire helps you find something to do together, turn it into a personal invitation, and give the other person clear ways to choose and respond.
Not a matching platform. You already have someone in mind. The site helps with what comes next: what could you do together, how do you invite someone, and how can that person answer easily?
Choice instead of guessing
An invitation can contain several possibilities. The other person can say what sounds good, what they would change, or what they want to suggest themselves.
Neuroinclusive, not diagnosis-gated
Clarity, visible options and fewer unwritten social rules can be useful for neurodivergent people - but the tool is open to everyone.
People still decide
The technology helps structure and suggest. The people involved decide what feels right, what kind of relationship it is and what happens next.
For dating, friendship and spending time together
Make Friends & Fire is deliberately broader than dating. Use it for a first date, an existing friendship, family, a group, or simply because you want to see someone but do not yet know what to suggest. The niche is not one relationship type; it is the combination of activity discovery, clearer invitations and genuine choice.
Ten years around the same question
The idea began in 2016 with 2Tango: how do you make an invitation personal without deciding for the other person? Through forms, physical 2Tango.Zones, festivals, web apps, Together and ietsdoen.nu, that question evolved into today’s Make Friends & Fire.
Read the full storyBuilt together
Made by 2Tango and the Neurodiversity Foundation
Make Friends & Fire combines a decade of social-connection experiments from 2Tango with the neuroinclusive mission, community perspective and nonprofit publishing of the Neurodiversity Foundation.
Frequently asked questions
Is Make Friends & Fire a dating app?
No. It is not a matching platform, and you do not need to build a profile to find someone. You already have someone in mind; Make Friends & Fire helps you decide what to do together and turn that into a clear invitation.
Is it only for neurodivergent people?
No. Anyone can use the tools. The design is intentionally neuroinclusive: less guessing, more visible choices, clearer steps, and room for different ways of responding.
What does the site actually help with?
You can discover activities, combine choices, create a personal invitation, share it as text, a link or an E-card, and let the other person respond without requiring an account.
Why does Make Friends & Fire exist?
Because the gap between ‘we should do something sometime’ and a real plan can be surprisingly large. The project tries to make that step smaller with concrete ideas, clearer invitations and genuine choice.